ARe sessions online or in person?

All sessions are on Zoom – but if you’re based in London or near Guildford in Surrey, there may be the option to meet in person. If you’d prefer that, get in touch and we can talk about when and how.

IS ANY TOUCH INVOLVED?

There’s no physical/sexual contact of any kind. We’ll talk. If you’re looking for massage or any other body-based experiences, there are people I can refer you to.

DO YOU ONLY WORK WITH COUPLES or people in relationships?

Not at all. You’re welcome to come on your own. In fact, this can be really helpful. I believe that what we bring into a relationship as individuals is just as important as the relationship itself. Talking about issues that concern you, for example gender identity, sexuality, trauma or abuse, are often best discussed outside of your relationships so when it comes to sharing yourself with others, you know what matters to you and what you need from them.

Perhaps you’ve noticed a particular pattern that repeats itself in your relationships, or that being intimate or vulnerable with others is difficult. Exploring what’s going on for you can set you up for future success and happiness.

ARE YOU LGBTQ+ FRIENDLY?

Yes. Sexuality has many expressions, as do relationships. I’m interested in helping you explore what great sex and relationships mean to you and how to engage with them safely, consensually, passionately, creatively, and with care for yourself and others.

ARE YOU kink/bdsm FRIENDLY?

Yes. See above.

WHAT CAN I TALK ABOUT?

You can discuss any aspects of your emotional, physical, sexual and spiritual self. What you choose to focus on and how deeply is entirely up to you. I offer you a private space within which to explore. Everything you say will always be treated confidentially (unless the law says otherwise).

How much do you charge?

For individuals, I charge £70 for each 50-minute session, with an initial commitment to four sessions (i.e. an initial payment of £280). For couples, it’s £90, also based on blocks of four (an initial payment of £360). For in-person sessions, prices may vary to cover the cost of room hire.

is this therapy?

I’m a coach/counsellor and currently finishing my training as a Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist with the London Diploma, accredited by COSRT. I’m due to qualify early in February 2025. Therefore, depending on the issues you want to discuss and the depth you want to go to, you may need support I’m not qualified to offer. If this is the case, I can suggest other people to contact.

Our 30-minute Discovery Call will help us work out whether I’m the right person for you.

How many sessions will I need?

I offer sessions in blocks of four. The total number you’ll need depends on what you want to work on. The change you’re looking for might happen quickly, but generally it takes longer to reach a place where you feel able to ‘go it alone’. If you go to a personal trainer, you don’t expect a six-pack after your first session. This is similar. Some things just take time.

However, it definitely helps if you’re committed to the process. It can feel scary to be vulnerable, but I invite you to be brave and honest about what’s going on for you. The more you put in, the more you’re likely to get out.

WILL YOU TELL ME WHAT TO DO?

No. I may guide you, offer suggestions or co-create exercises with you that you can do between our sessions, but I won’t give you advice. I’ll never be an expert on you and your life! That’s your job! My role is to help you find your own unique path, either individually or with a partner/partners.

WHAT ABOUT CONFIDENTIALITY?

I won’t share anything you tell me with anyone else unless I’m legally required to do so or I believe you’re a genuine risk to yourself or others.

It’s unlikely that our confidentiality agreement will need to be broken, but if that happens, as appropriate, we’ll talk about why and what that will involve.

What happens if i can’t make a session or i’m running late?

If you give me at least 24 hours’ notice, we’ll just reschedule your session and no payment will be lost. If I have less than 24 hours’ notice, we can put another date in the diary, but you’ll forfeit the payment for that missed session.

If you’re running late and let me know, I’ll wait for you to show up, although the session will still end at the usual time. If you don’t let me know you’re running late, I’ll wait 15 minutes and then cancel the session and payment for that session will be lost.

If I need to miss a session, I will let you know with as much notice as possible. In this situation, you won’t lose any money for the session missed.

If either you or I have holidays booked, it’s helpful to share this when we first speak.

ARE SESSIONS RECORDED?

No sessions will be recorded without the agreement of everyone involved.